take away the carrot, and only the stick remains

Probably the oddest result of the so-called sexual revolution is the demonization of chastity and celibacy. Delayed gratification is the bedrock of civilization and marriage is built upon that foundation. If men and women have no hope of stable, long-term relationships that produce children, there won't be a new generation to keep every other institution going.  Put another way, every man who can't find a woman means another woman who can't find a man. 

For the vast majority of human history, the only way men and women could be sure about paternity was though chastity. Men in general do not want to pay for the upkeep of children who aren't theirs nor the women who gave birth to them. Women do not want to be stuck caring for children with no man to help.

In prior centuries and even today, celibate people have been some of the most productive and creative. Science, art, philosophy, etc are largely the products of men who either couldn't or didn't have offspring. If the carrot is sex, children, and companionship, then the stick includes things like a tax on bachelors, outlawing prostitution, and censoring explicit media. 

Religions like Christianity and Islam do a good job of have the right mix of carrots and sticks, but secular urban liberalism has been gnawing away at both for more than half a century. If the incentives are weakened or broken, they lose their effectiveness. It amuses me that only a country as bipolar puritanical as the US would consider the loss of virginity such a large milestone on the path life. There's a reason why marriages are often expensive, public celebrations while one's first orgasm is not. 

Sex is not a mystery to those who grow up around farm animals or watch lots of nature documentaries. 

It's important to realize that most pop culture comes from a very small subset of the secular, urban population. For that subset, sexual is probably the most interesting and memorable sensation they ever experience. Oh yeah, and it can be proved mathematically that most people lie about their number of sexual partners, because every time a man had sex with a woman, a woman has sex with a man. The same is true for LGBT etc. 

Derpetology: Here comes my Ig Nobel

For those out there feeling embarrassed about their lack of sexual experience, please believe me when I say it really isn't a big deal. The big deal is having a baby to take care of when you didn't want one. Incurable STDs also exist. In general, it's a mistake to seek validation from others. 

We should all be glad we don't reproduce like these critters:

Stag Beetle Throws Girlfriend Out Of Tree | Life | BBC Earth

SHOCKING slug mating 😳 | Wild Isles